In all the pursuit of material and professional happiness, this woman – despite all she says – just does not see a man as priority (and she treats him accordingly).
This woman is one of the most exasperating for a man. Sadly (for the men), research indicates that she is pretty common.
Here are her two most arresting characteristics:
She is Unreasonably Ambitious
Chip on the shoulder, foot on the gas, and keys to the office always nearby. She “needs” to do everything but live life.
“I want – no, need to make my first million by the time I’m 25!”
“I have to prove to everyone that a woman can stand toe to toe with all the men in the profession.”
She Isn’t Very Interested in Family
“Noooooo, I can’t have any children any time soon. Not before 35 and I don’t think I can afford to have more than one. In fact, I may need a surrogate.”
Did you know that, (based on to research I will mention shortly) men today actually have a “greater inclination toward parenthood” than women “across every age group.”
YOU Ladies Better Take Note
Sadly, “according to what may be the biggest study of single people ever,” this is perhaps the woman that you are most like.
The study was sponsored by Match.com but “carried out by an independent company in conjunction with Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, social historian Stephanie Coontz and the evolutionary-studies program at Binghamton University.”
“Women are much more interested in their independence than men are,”…They value certain parts of their single lives more than men do… women are likelier to want to have their own bank accounts, their own interests, their own personal space and solo vacations, even if they’re in a committed relationship. They also care more about nights out with buddies.
On the data Luscombe stated, “it’s not simply…that guys are more pro-marriage than has been believed; it’s that women are less so than the stereotypes would have it.”
Why This Woman Frustrates Men
1. Because we (still) want romance and love and time and attention.
While some women may now prefer more exciting things (like work?), a large number of men still want to just go to the movies and eat ice cream without having to rush it.
We want time to talk about our deepest feelings, with just one woman in a way that we feel very uncomfortable doing with our closest male friends.
It may be that after all, men are just more romantic than women, with all the benefits and problems that brings with it: almost a third of the men surveyed believe that there is just one perfect match for every human. (And no, there’s no evidence their wives were in the room at the time.) Only a quarter of women felt that way. (TIME)
2. Because We (still) Want Families.
I love this bit from the research:
Single men are, on the whole, as likely to want to get married as single women, the survey found. They are more likely than women to be open to dating people of a different race or religion, more prone to falling in love at first sight, more eager to combine bank accounts sooner and more likely to want children. (That distant choking sound you hear is thousands of women finding this news hard to swallow.) (TIME)
Who would ever have thought things would go this way?
I highly recommend that you ladies read the following 3 articles from TIME Magazine from which I received a great deal of assistance for this article:
- Debunking the Myth of the Slippery Bachelor
- Who Needs Marriage? A Changing Institution
- Who Needs Marriage? Men, Apparently
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